RIGHTNESS and PRIDE
5 years ago
These are two of the most powerful beliefs which drive abusive and controlling males to not make the changes needed to save themselves, their relationships, their marriages and their families.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
March 31, 2021
Saint Louis, Missouri
No matter who we are, we all have at least a little bit of pride and a little bit of ego invested in everything we do or say. Unfortunately these two human traits prevent us from recognizing that we need help, asking for help, and accepting help. Others who love us and care about us, have pretty good insights into our deficiencies and insights into the causes for our problems. LISTEN TO THESE IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES. Date September 15, 2021 In relation to deficiencies PEOPLE WITH ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY, GENERALIZE ANXIETY, EVEN OBSESSIVENESS, UNKNOWINGLY HAVE DEVELOPED MAGICAL THINKING. THEY HAVE COME TO ACCEPT, AND QUIETLY TAKE PRIDE IN THE FACT THAT, THEIR WORRIES, THEIR HYPERVIGILANCE, THEIR PRAYERS, AND THEIR LIST MAKING, ARE PREVENTING (or at least minimizing) BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THEMSELVES, THEIR LOVED ONES, AND EVEN PREVENTING BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THE WORLD AROUND THEM. Date January 7, 2022 In relation to ANXIETY SOMETIMES WE DO REALLY TERRIBLE QUALITY WORK. CONSCIOUSNESS PEOPLE ARE THE FIRST ONES TO REALIZE THE POOR QUALITY OF THEIR OWN WORK, AS WELL AS THEIR DISINTEREST AND LACK OF MOTIVATION WITH RESPECT TO THIS WORK. THEY DODGE HAVING TO HEAR THEIR OWN INTERNAL, AS WELL AS OTHERS’, CRITICISMS. IT IS OK TO ADMIT ONE’S DEFICIENCIES, LEARN MORE AND DO BETTER…OR MOVE ON TO TASKS AND WORK WHERE WE CAN EXCEL AND THAT GIVE US A TRUE SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT, JOY, AND PRIDE. Date January 2, 2022 In relation to accomplishment
