It’s a common assumption, and a misconception, that if we adults donate to our children so much of our lives…our love, time, energy, and money, that we somehow “own” more of our kids, or we have dibs on what they will eventually produce. We do not. Some of us even will assume that our childrenContinue reading “Our children are “on loan” to us parents (and to other adults) so that we can teach, protect, and provide for them until they’re able to take over these responsibilities.”
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Once our kids are old enough to hit the ground walking and running, we parents are relegated to corralling and herding for the rest of our lives.
Charles Tadros, M.D. May 20, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
PEOPLE WITH ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY, GENERALIZE ANXIETY, EVEN OBSESSIVENESS, UNKNOWINGLY HAVE DEVELOPED MAGICAL THINKING. THEY HAVE COME TO ACCEPT, AND QUIETLY TAKE PRIDE IN THE FACT THAT, THEIR WORRIES, THEIR HYPERVIGILANCE, THEIR PRAYERS, AND THEIR LIST MAKING, ARE PREVENTING (or at least minimizing) BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THEMSELVES, THEIR LOVED ONES, AND EVEN PREVENTING BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THE WORLD AROUND THEM.
People with these beliefs and behaviors actually see and worry about real world issues. The only problem is that they are trapped with deeper and broader worries, which they cannot just think about and be able let go, pray about and be able let go, or act on and be able to let go. CharlesContinue reading “PEOPLE WITH ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY, GENERALIZE ANXIETY, EVEN OBSESSIVENESS, UNKNOWINGLY HAVE DEVELOPED MAGICAL THINKING. THEY HAVE COME TO ACCEPT, AND QUIETLY TAKE PRIDE IN THE FACT THAT, THEIR WORRIES, THEIR HYPERVIGILANCE, THEIR PRAYERS, AND THEIR LIST MAKING, ARE PREVENTING (or at least minimizing) BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THEMSELVES, THEIR LOVED ONES, AND EVEN PREVENTING BAD THINGS FROM HAPPENING TO THE WORLD AROUND THEM.”
WHEN A YOUNG CHILD IS FRIGHTENED, I WANT YOU TO IMMEDIATELY ENVELOPE THEM. PLEASE DO NOT STOP WITH A HUG, HOLDING THEIR HAND, PICKING THEM UP, OR WITH A KISS ON THE FOREHEAD.
Charles Tadros, M.D. July 3, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri