Too often our training and education are not necessarily what we are good at performing, nor does it give us joy. Even if these align, such qualities do not necessarily translate into a good income or financial stability or help us to become wealthy. Very often, what we selected at age 18 is a single,Continue reading “It’s fantastic if what we were trained to perform (or were educated to know) aligns very well with what we are good at performing, which, in turn, aligns well with what gives us joy when performing, which, in turn, makes us a good income, gives us financial stability, and helps grow our wealth.”
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The tail end of my discussion with a young friend regarding his natural frustration, 4 weeks into his first real job…
by the way your bosses, just like your high school coaches, push you hard and don’t want to hear excuses, because they believe that you can do good work.What your new bosses will notice are: 1) that you show up on time or, better yet, early. 2) that you ask insightful questions, BUT DO NOTContinue reading “The tail end of my discussion with a young friend regarding his natural frustration, 4 weeks into his first real job…”
Here’s a mental trick regarding a source for your own motivation…
If someone is telling you to do, or not to do something, neither of which were in your plans, but you agree with the goal(s), find your own, real reason, to do as they wished (but not use any of their thinking). Don’t automatically ignore the message just because you don’t like the messenger. CharlesContinue reading “Here’s a mental trick regarding a source for your own motivation…”
To maximize your value, and your income…
see and think broadly like a generalist. Get paid to know and to do as a specialist. Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
Love for family is weird…
You can be frustrated and angry about your own family. In fact, you can bad-mouth your family, but nobody else can agree or stay the same thing about your family without your shutting them down. Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
The vast majority of us feel better about ourselves if we are able to say, ” Yes” or, “Yes…and….” to ourselves, or to others, instead of a, ” no”.
Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
Self directed is not the same as self organized.
Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
It’s so hard, “to be present” when…
you can see everything that should have been done, everything that still needs to be done, and it’s your responsibility to notice, plan, arrange, assign, follow-up, apologize, and complete these, as well as clean up yourself and everyone else. You can’t delegate anything, or even ask for help, because your brain is such a mess…soContinue reading “It’s so hard, “to be present” when…”
My email this morning to a friend who wants to feel better without having to drink so much, while not wanting to give up alcohol.
Good morning J. This doesn’t work for everyone, but this maybe what you’re looking for: The Sinclair Method (please watch YouTube first, then go to the website) https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts https://cthreefoundation.org/ And from the New York Times: “Cold Turkey Isn’t the Only Route” https://nyti.ms/1cmKofM A related book, by the author of the New York Times piece: https://gabrielleglaser.com/books/her-best-kept-secretContinue reading “My email this morning to a friend who wants to feel better without having to drink so much, while not wanting to give up alcohol.”
It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.
You can read all the self-help books and watch all the self-help videos, and finally be convinced and finally have a strategy for your helping yourself make a needed change. Unfortunately, your friends, coworkers, relatives, and loved ones have not been on the same journey with you. Often, you will need their encouragement and theirContinue reading “It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.”