A father's and physician's wide-ranging thoughts regarding our typical, and not so typical, lives
Patients really want perfection. Sometimes this perfection needs to be accomplished with the first interaction.
Nobody patients or medical practitioners ever talks about such expectations.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
September 20, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
There should be no secrets, no hidden agendas, no mind reading necessary. Just because you have the skills and the experience, and work has an open position, does not automatically mean that you are a good match.
For the long term, do not contort yourself and your needs and your goals to allow you to win over an potential employer.
However, for the short-term, typically, you will need to bend more than you wish, in order to lay down the smaller steps needed to achieve your longer-term objectives.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
August 3, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
You can’t read minds. None of us can. Also, you probably haven’t figured out how to read behavioral patterns from the people that work with you.
Ask.
Please understand, any boss who thinks that you’ve already met expectations will just set different or higher standards for you… nobody is going to let you keep making the same money with just coasting after you’ve reached goals.
Remember, sometimes the things that you think are important or you take great pride in, do not match what your bosses see, agree with, or want.
ASK.
AND, AT THE SAME TIME ASK FOR A FOLLOW-UP MEETING TO REVIEW ACCOMPLISHMENTS AND THE QUALITY OF YOUR WORK.
No one-hour meetings are needed. Just touch base so that they see your work and you know that you are heading in the right direction for what they want from you.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
August 3, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
Coming down/off everything from alcohol to some correctly administered and taken prescriptions, to many street drug concoctions is so physically painful, nauseating, anxiety-producing, depression-triggering, trauma recreating, insomnia-producing, loneliness-creating, shame-producing, and crave-triggering that many people may need to be prescribed one or more medications to help alleviate symptoms. These medications may be needed to be taken anywhere from months, to years, to the rest of a patient’s life.
Additionally, almost all sufferers need connection with self, others, purpose, and a higher power/spirituality.
Medications, connections, even emotional, sexual, and physical trauma recovery help sufferers to begin to think and feel in a dramatically healthier way, when off these debilitating substances.
Working on interpersonal skills, life-skills, job skills, financial needs, as well as helping people understand and work with their own perfectionism, shame, embarrassment, anger, frustrations, and anxieties are very often needed.
Just entering people into an evidence-based detox and rehabilitation program is the first of many necessary uphill struggles. These struggles are unavoidable and part of the healing process.
By the way, there are no textbooks or studies that tell us to give up on people trying to recover…regardless of how long, how many times, or how much effort has been spent in the process.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
Saint Louis, Missouri
July 29, 2023
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/howard-marks-only-made-5-211339778.html
Charles Tadros, M.D.
June 13, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
(specific to personal finances)
Any physical item that you purchase, in part, or entirely, with any form of debt, automatically means that you don’t actually own the product.
You may have physical possession of the product. You may use the product. You may use up the product, wear it out, break it or lose it, but you don’t (didn’t) own it.
The person or institution that lent you the money to purchase the item is the real owner, at least until you have paid off your debt.
Don’t count the money that you’ve just borrowed as your money. It is not.
Not only is any borrowed money not your money, but any collateral that you may have put up (house, real estate, car, boat, motorcycle, business, accounts receivable, stocks, or bonds) are no longer really yours either…try missing 3 or 4 payments to the lender, and see what happens to: the original item that you’d purchased, you collateral, your credit score.
Frustrating ain’t it!
Charles Tadros, MD
June 12, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
https://youtube.com/shorts/aYcuZ_1d6Ak?feature=share4
(Please listen to the lesson and incorporate your value system to help make it apply to your situation. Don’t be distracted by whether or not you like the speaker, or approve of his cultural stances.)
Charles Tadros, M.D.
July 4, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
Charles Tadros, M.D.
July 2, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri
This is a very benign appearing stunt.
Who would ever predict that these life jackets could just as easily have held her face down, instead of face-up, in the water?
Charles Tadros, M.D.
June 22, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri