Charles Tadros, MD December 15, 2025 Saint Louis, MO
Tag Archives: PAIN
My texting to a patient under my care. He has prolonged, severe anxiety, panic, and depression…
Even these trivial, sometimes remedial actions mean something important in your health and in your relationships. We are so used to making big decisions, taking on big risks, big responsibilities, and big challenges that we trivialize and minimize the ultra small stuff (which may add up to big things). Whether it’s in financial investments, self-knowledge,Continue reading “My texting to a patient under my care. He has prolonged, severe anxiety, panic, and depression…”
Manic, depressed, anxious, traumatized, or addicted people don’t forget their education, their knowledge, or their common sense when they make unwise choices or make poor decisions. They make unwise choices, poor decisions, and take unhelpful actions because the drive to avoid immediate pain, to obtain a near-term reward, or to experience a fleeting pleasure is so very overwhelmingly strong.
Charles Tadros, M.D. March 28, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
SOME PEOPLE HAVE TO SHOW US HOW MUCH THEY ARE PAINED, SADDENED, OR DESPAIRED. TOO OFTEN THESE PEOPLE DON’T HAVE THE WORDS TO DESCRIBE, OR CAN’T EFFECTIVELY USE THEIR WORDS TO DESCRIBE, THE MAGNITUDE AND INTENSITY OF WHAT THEY FEEL OR WHAT THEY HAVE EXPERIENCED.
Expression of such strong emotions may lead to equally strong responses and reactions, such as: graffiti creativity and art piercings tattoos mood disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders self harm substance abuse high risk behaviors violence Charles Tadros, M.D. August 10, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
Suicidality…
It is so difficult, but life-saving, to make ourselves available, open and non-judgmental of people so that they are able to speak openly of their painful truths. Erase all of our assumptions about people. Let them tell us about what none of us had suspected. We do not need to correct, reassure or advise (unlessContinue reading “Suicidality…”
FOR ALL MY HIGH SCHOOL YEARS, I WORE A SIZE 10 1/2 SHOE. THESE SHOES WOULD PINCH AND HURT FOR A FEW MONTHS, UNTIL THE SHOES STRETCHED. AT 26 YEARS OLD, SOMEHOW, I FINALLY BROKE OUT OF THE MINDSET OF HAVING TO SUFFER FOR MONTHS AFTER EACH PURCHASE. I FOUND MY TRUE, OUT OF THE BOX COMFORTABLE SHOE SIZE WAS 12 1/2. THIS IS THE SHOE SIZE I HAVE WORN FOR THE 32 YEARS SINCE MY REVELATION.
What blinders do we have on? What unnecessary pains do we complacently accept? What comfortable (and comforting) facts and paradigms do we accept in our lives, for years at a time, despite our pains, without question or attempt to find different, if not better, options and opportunities? What do we know about what we don’tContinue reading “FOR ALL MY HIGH SCHOOL YEARS, I WORE A SIZE 10 1/2 SHOE. THESE SHOES WOULD PINCH AND HURT FOR A FEW MONTHS, UNTIL THE SHOES STRETCHED. AT 26 YEARS OLD, SOMEHOW, I FINALLY BROKE OUT OF THE MINDSET OF HAVING TO SUFFER FOR MONTHS AFTER EACH PURCHASE. I FOUND MY TRUE, OUT OF THE BOX COMFORTABLE SHOE SIZE WAS 12 1/2. THIS IS THE SHOE SIZE I HAVE WORN FOR THE 32 YEARS SINCE MY REVELATION.”
A WAY TO FEEL DIFFERENTLY ABOUT THE POTENTIAL FOR UNWANTED CHANGE IS FOR US TO CHOOSE TO ADD (lessons, experiences, people, growth, costs, pains) TO OUR LIVES. OTHERWISE IT WOULD BE TOO SAD AND TOO PAINFUL TO CONSIDER THESE CHANGES AS LOSSES OR AS DISASTERS.
Charles Tadros, M.D. December 24, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
WHEN DID WE GET TO AN AGE WHERE MUSCLES AND JOINTS HURT SO MUCH THAT WE HAVE TO MAKE A PLAN IN ORDER TO BEND DOWN TO PICK UP SOMETHING OFF OF THE FLOOR?
Charles Tadros, M.D. October 27, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF BEING ON THE RECEIVING END OF INTENTIONAL OR UNINTENTIONAL PAIN (physical, emotional, spiritual/existential, relationship, financial) IS THAT IT IS TRANSFORMATIONAL. OUR PAIN FORCES US TO THINK DIFFERENTLY, TO EMPATHIZE MORE READILY, AND TO PUSH US TOWARD EFFECTING AND ACCEPTING CHANGE.
Charles Tadros, M.D. September 19, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
IN LIFE, WORSE THAN A BAD OUTCOME, IS WHEN SOMEONE ELSE SEES US STRUGGLING AND DOES NOT OFFER INSIGHTS OR OPTIONS WHICH MAY HAVE LESSENED, OR EVEN HAVE AVOIDED, OUR NEEDLES STRUGGLING AND SUFFERING.
Charles Tadros, M.D. August 18, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri