A WAY TO FEEL DIFFERENTLY ABOUT THE POTENTIAL FOR UNWANTED CHANGE IS FOR US TO CHOOSE TO ADD (lessons, experiences, people, growth, costs, pains) TO OUR LIVES. OTHERWISE IT WOULD BE TOO SAD AND TOO PAINFUL TO CONSIDER THESE CHANGES AS LOSSES OR AS DISASTERS.

Charles Tadros, M.D. December 24, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

SOMETIMES WE ARE IN SO DEEPLY INTO A SITUATION OR A RELATIONSHIP, THAT WE LOSE A SENSE OF HOW DIFFERENT THINGS COULD BE OR SHOULD BE.

I often hear comments from people who are drowning in terrible relationships, “Is this normal?”, “How do I know if this is normal?”, “Does it have to be this way?”, “Part of the problem has been me, and my [weight, depression, parents, work, kids from another relationship…] issues.” My question to them is, “What wouldContinue reading “SOMETIMES WE ARE IN SO DEEPLY INTO A SITUATION OR A RELATIONSHIP, THAT WE LOSE A SENSE OF HOW DIFFERENT THINGS COULD BE OR SHOULD BE.”

THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF BEING ON THE RECEIVING END OF INTENTIONAL OR UNINTENTIONAL PAIN (physical, emotional, spiritual/existential, relationship, financial) IS THAT IT IS TRANSFORMATIONAL. OUR PAIN FORCES US TO THINK DIFFERENTLY, TO EMPATHIZE MORE READILY, AND TO PUSH US TOWARD EFFECTING AND ACCEPTING CHANGE.

Charles Tadros, M.D. September 19, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

SOMETIMES THE EARTH UNDER YOU IS MOVING, AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS SWIRLING AND CHANGING, BUT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING. DO YOU CHOOSE TO STAY THE SAME? DO YOU ADJUST BY MOVING IN WAYS AND DIRECTIONS THAT MAY MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR YOU, BUT TRULY ARE NOT YOU?

Your friends, who work at the same job with you, and support you emotionally, move to other jobs. Then, your supervisors, with whom you get along, get promoted and move on. The new supervisors and the company start wanting you to change how you perform your job, and change how your performance is measured. DoContinue reading “SOMETIMES THE EARTH UNDER YOU IS MOVING, AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS SWIRLING AND CHANGING, BUT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING. DO YOU CHOOSE TO STAY THE SAME? DO YOU ADJUST BY MOVING IN WAYS AND DIRECTIONS THAT MAY MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR YOU, BUT TRULY ARE NOT YOU?”

SMALL CHANGES NOW (plus time and patience), OR SMALL CHANGES STRETCHED OUT OVER TIME, OFTEN LEAD TO DRAMATICALLY DIFFERENT RESULTS THAN EXPECTED.

Charles Tadros, M.D. September 12, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

THERE IS A SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCE, OCCASIONALLY WITH OVERLAP, BETWEEN A PASSION TO MAKE MONEY AND A PASSION TO PERFORM AN ACTIVITY WHICH MAKES MONEY.

The significant difference is that if one activity does not make money, or stops making money, the person with a passion to make money will easily migrate to something else, whether knowledgeable or passionate about it or not, which has a better opportunity to make a profit. A passion to perform an activity, often meansContinue reading “THERE IS A SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCE, OCCASIONALLY WITH OVERLAP, BETWEEN A PASSION TO MAKE MONEY AND A PASSION TO PERFORM AN ACTIVITY WHICH MAKES MONEY.”

IT IS VERY UNCOMFORTABLE, AND MAY EVEN COME AT A SIGNIFICANT COST, BUT IS STILL OKAY, TO BACKTRACK AND ASK, CLARIFY, CORRECT, CHALLENGE, OR CHANGE ONGOING OR ENTRENCHED, BUT UNACCEPTABLE, ACTIONS, BELIEFS, RELATIONSHIPS, ASSUMPTIONS, PROCESSES AND SITUATIONS.

Charles Tadros M.D. June 9, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF

But so many people have not loved themselves for a very long time. Loving yourself is not selfish, self-centered or narcissistic. Loving yourself gives you room to grow, improve and change. Loving yourself spreads this same energy and potential to others. Charles Tadros, M.D. April 3, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri