Thanks for hanging out yesterday.I see a direct line between people who loved me and supported me (and often suffered while doing so) to my being able to sit casually with you to have a nice lunch, decades later. Seriously consider listening to what you think, say, and feel as NOT being abnormal or diseased.Continue reading “My text to a 22 year old family friend about the dislikes of his first full-time job…and my sense of the world as a 58 year-old father, husband, son, brother, physician, and former employee (turned employer).”
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Not having $1 vs having $1 while being in debt to someone for that $1 may look the same when we look at our balance sheets and net worth. However, they certainly don’t feel the same.
The vast majority of us have credit card debt, home loan debt, automobile loan debt, school loan debt, medical bill-related debt, gambling debt, investment margin debt, business-related debt, liens against our property, or owe money to a friend or relative. Too often, these debts last long after the joy and usefulness of the purchased productContinue reading “Not having $1 vs having $1 while being in debt to someone for that $1 may look the same when we look at our balance sheets and net worth. However, they certainly don’t feel the same.”
It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.
You can read all the self-help books and watch all the self-help videos, and finally be convinced and finally have a strategy for your helping yourself make a needed change. Unfortunately, your friends, coworkers, relatives, and loved ones have not been on the same journey with you. Often, you will need their encouragement, support, andContinue reading “It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.”
“Everybody you fight is not your enemy and everybody that helps you is not your friend.” Mike Tyson
Charles Tadros, M.D. September 10, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
It’s OK to love someone who is hurtful and toxic, while keeping them at an arm’s length. This includes family and friends, as well as former business and romantic partners.
Being a good person does not include standing by, silently, while being endangered, shamed, embarrassed, controlled, or abused. Charles Tadros, M.D. September 3, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
WORKERS WANT THEIR BOSSES TO CATCH OTHER WORKERS NOT DOING THEIR JOBS. BOSSES CANNOT RELY ON WORKERS TURNING IN THEIR COLLEAGUES AND FRIENDS, EVEN THOUGH POOR PERFORMANCES FROM SOME WORKERS SHIFT MORE WORK, RESPONSIBILITIES, AND RISK ONTO THEIR FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES.
Charles Tadros, M.D. August 12, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
WHEN MANY OF US USE ALCOHOL, OFTEN IT IS IN ASSOCIATION WITH POSITIVE EVENTS SUCH AS:
BEING CREATIVE BEING FUNNY BEING SEXUAL CONNECTING WITH SPOUSE/PARTNER, CONNECTING WITH FRIENDS, REWARDING OURSELVES AFTER MOWING THE LAWN/DOING YARD WORK, RITUALS OF BARBEQUING, COOKING DINNER, RELAXING ON WEEKENDS and DURING VACATIONS, SHARING TEAM SPIRIT AND ENJOYING SPORTS, RELAXING AND UNWINDING AFTER A HARD DAY’S WORTH OF WORK, AND PARTIES: BIRTHDAYS, ANNIVERSARIES, GRADUATIONS, WEDDINGS, SHOWERS, HOLIDAYS,Continue reading “WHEN MANY OF US USE ALCOHOL, OFTEN IT IS IN ASSOCIATION WITH POSITIVE EVENTS SUCH AS:”
BENEFITS OF COOKING OUR OWN FOOD…
We understand and appreciate: organization, planning, storage, space utilization, assistants, assistance, tools, work flow, completeness, exactness, freestyling, waste, cost, quality, time, timing, and coordination. We are more likely to appreciate the efforts and foods prepared by others. We may consider growing some of our own foods (even a simple windowsill herb garden). We appreciate theContinue reading “BENEFITS OF COOKING OUR OWN FOOD…”
HOW WE DRINK ALCOHOL (what, when, where, how much), THE REASON(s) FOR DRINKING, AND HOW ALCOHOL AFFECTS US ARE MORE TELLING THAN WE REALIZE.
Why “Mom Juice” Culture Is Problematic https://katiecouric.com/podcast/next-question/moms-and-drinking/ How Drinking Less Solved a Lot of Problems https://nyti.ms/2MHnOIp No adult wants to be questioned, judged, or regulated when it comes to anything in their lives, especially their alcohol consumption. Thirty years of my accumulated experience, knowledge, and wisdom from taking care of patients, including addressing their alcoholContinue reading “HOW WE DRINK ALCOHOL (what, when, where, how much), THE REASON(s) FOR DRINKING, AND HOW ALCOHOL AFFECTS US ARE MORE TELLING THAN WE REALIZE.”
ANOTHER SUICIDE…CHESLIE KRYST
https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6894379272736178176?commentUrn=urn%3Ali%3Acomment%3A%28activity%3A6894379272736178176%2C6895116065764986880%29 There is no emoji adequate for the loss of another one of our sisters (or brothers). Cheslie is us and we are her. 130 suicides/day, completed, in the US. 3,700 suicide attempts, each and every day in the US (https://lnkd.in/gtm7iGnE). Medical and mental health professionals have an array of very effective treatments, not cures,Continue reading “ANOTHER SUICIDE…CHESLIE KRYST”