SOMETIMES WE DO REALLY TERRIBLE QUALITY WORK. CONSCIOUSNESS PEOPLE ARE THE FIRST ONES TO REALIZE THE POOR QUALITY OF THEIR OWN WORK, AS WELL AS THEIR DISINTEREST AND LACK OF MOTIVATION WITH RESPECT TO THIS WORK. THEY DODGE HAVING TO HEAR THEIR OWN INTERNAL, AND OTHERS’ CRITICISMS. IT IS OK TO ADMIT ONE’S DEFICIENCIES, LEARN MORE AND DO BETTER, OR MOVE ON TO TASKS AND WORK WHERE WE CAN EXCEL AND THAT GIVE US A TRUE SENSE ACCOMPLISHMENT, JOY, AND PRIDE.

Charles Tadros, M.D. January 2, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

WITHIN OUR OWN FAMILIES, WE HAVE TEENAGERS WHO WILL PUMP IRON FOR HOURS PER WEEK, DO INSANE PHYSICAL FEATS, REPEATEDLY, FOR TIK TOK, BUT WILL NOT DO ANY OF THESE SIMPLE PHYSICAL ACTS FOR AN HOUR OR TWO A WEEK: PICK UP THEIR ROOM, PUSH A LAWN MOWER, RAKE LEAVES, DO THE DISHES, TAKE OUT THE TRASH (without having to be asked, or having a knock down, dragged out fight).

Charles Tadros, M.D. January 2, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

ISSUES WHICH DISTRACT FROM THE FACT THAT OUR ADDICTED, ANXIOUS, OBSESSED, ADHD’D, TRAUMATIZED, OR DEPRESSED BRAINS (which we need to trust) ARE AT THE ROOT OF OUR MOST SEVERE PROBLEMS: PERSONALITY DIFFICULTIES, FAMILY STRIFE, SOCIAL TENSIONS, WORK RELATED CONFLICTS, FINANCIAL TROUBLES, AND LEGAL ISSUES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. December 30, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

FOR PEOPLE WITH SEVERE ADDICTIONS, THE ADDICTIONS, AND THEIR ASSOCIATED BEHAVIORS, FEEL LIKE BREATHING: AUTOMATIC, CYCLIC, THOUGHTLESS, NATURAL, AND NEEDED FOR LIFE. THIS IS WHY, WHEN AN ADDICT PROMISES THEMSELVES, AND OTHERS, THAT THEY CAN QUIT (and that they will quit, when they are, “good and ready”), IT IS AS IF THEY HAVE PROMISED TO HOLD THEIR BREATH. THEY MAY BE ABLE TO DO IT FOR A WHILE, BUT, EVENTUALLY, EVERY SEVERE ADDICT WILL RELAPSE. THEY HAVE TO BREATHE.

Severe addiction, heck, probably most addictions, require that sufferers ask for, receive, use, and follow through with professional help in order to decrease and cease the repetitive behavior(s). Many addictions often lead to financial, familial, work/career, health, and even legal problems. Addictions are medical illnesses (not just legal issues), with far reaching personal and socialContinue reading “FOR PEOPLE WITH SEVERE ADDICTIONS, THE ADDICTIONS, AND THEIR ASSOCIATED BEHAVIORS, FEEL LIKE BREATHING: AUTOMATIC, CYCLIC, THOUGHTLESS, NATURAL, AND NEEDED FOR LIFE. THIS IS WHY, WHEN AN ADDICT PROMISES THEMSELVES, AND OTHERS, THAT THEY CAN QUIT (and that they will quit, when they are, “good and ready”), IT IS AS IF THEY HAVE PROMISED TO HOLD THEIR BREATH. THEY MAY BE ABLE TO DO IT FOR A WHILE, BUT, EVENTUALLY, EVERY SEVERE ADDICT WILL RELAPSE. THEY HAVE TO BREATHE.”

THE SMALLEST PROJECTS OR TASKS WILL TAKE AN EVER INCREASING AMOUNT OF TIME, BOTH MENTALLY AND IN REALITY, DUE TO OUR: PERFECTIONISM, ANXIETIES, FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES, AND DUE TO OUR DISTRACTIBLITIES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. November 20, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

IF WE HAVE REPEATEDLY GRINDING FULL DAYS’ WORTH OF WORK AND RESPONSIBILITIES, IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO GET DONE WITH WORK JUST IN TIME TO EAT AND GO TO BED. NO MATTER HOW MUCH LOVE, GRIT, RESILIENCE, AND SUPPORT WE HAVE, SOONER OR LATER, OUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH WILL SCREAM OUT WITH EXHAUSTION, PAIN, IRRITABILITY, DISEASE, AND BURNOUT.

Charles Tadros M.D. September 29, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

ONCE THE PHONES GO ON, OR YOU RESPOND TO AN EMAIL, OR YOUR WORK UNLOCKS THE DOORS, OR EVEN IF PEOPLE HAVE A HINT THAT YOU ARE AWAKE, IT IS AS IF A STARTING GUN FOR THE DAY HAS GONE OFF AND YOU ARE OBLIGATED TO START RUNNING.

Charles Tadros, M.D. September 27, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

THERE IS A PARADOX IN PERSONAL FINANCE…SOMETIMES WE ARE SO BUSY (with work, family, community, health) THAT WE UNINTENTIONALLY WASTE A SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT OF MONEY IN OTHER ASPECTS OF OUR LIVES SUCH AS WITH DELAYING MAINTENANCE AND REPAIRS, CREATING EXCESSIVE WASTE, ACCUMULATING SPEEDING OR PARKING TICKETS, OVERDRAFT CHARGES, PENALTIES, INTEREST PAYMENTS, AS WELL AS MISSING OPPORTUNITIES TO MAKE MORE MONEY OR OPPORTUNITIES TO IMPROVE OUR RELATIONSHIS, HEALTH, AND LIVES. ADDITIONALLY, FROM ALL THE STRESS OF WORKING SO HARD, WE ENGAGING IN EXCESSIVE DRINKING OF ALCOHOL, INCREASED EATING OUT OR ORDERING OUT, AND EXCESSIVE SPENDING IN ORDER TO SOOTHE OUR FRAYED NERVES, AS WELL AS REWARD OURSELVES FOR ENDURING PAIN, DISCOMFORT, AND DELAYED GRATIFICATION.

Charles Tadros, M.D. September 23, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

IF WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN TO BE OPEN TO EXPERIENCES AND TO BE OPEN TO THE ACCEPTANCE OF OTHERS, THEN IT IS NOT MUCH OF A LEAP WHEN THEY WANT TO EXPERIENCE LIVING MORE SIMPLY BY NOT WORKING IN TRADITIONAL JOBS AND EXPRESSING THEIR GENDER AND THEIR IDENTITY DIFFERENTLY THAN THEIR PARENTS HAD CHOSEN FOR THEMSELVES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. August 21, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

SOMEONE ONCE SAID, “WE SHOULD RETIRE UNTIL AGE 40 (while we tend to have better health and more energy), THEN WORK UNTIL WE DIE (for camaraderie, daily routine, sense of purpose, and money).”

Charles Tadros, M.D. August 19, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri