THERE ARE EASIER AND HARDER GIGS, AS WELL AS MORE LUCRATIVE AND LESS LUCRATIVE GIGS IN EVERY PROFESSION. WE HAVE MORE POWER TO CHOOSE THAN WE THINK, BUT WE HAVE TO BE WILLING TO ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES, AND ASSOCIATED LIFE CHANGES, WHICH COME WITH OUR CHOICES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. May 22, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

MAYBE WE SHOULD SEPARATE OUR WORK, OUR JOY (OUR FLOW STATE), AND THE SHARING OF OUR TALENTS FROM THE MAKING OF SIGNIFICANT AMOUNTS OF MONEY. IDEALLY, ALL THESE IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTICS SHOULD COEXIST, BUT THEY CANNOT. DUE TO INHERENT TENSIONS, ONE TENDS TO OVERSHADOW, DIMINISH, OR DESTROY THE OTHER.

https://notyourdoc.blog/2021/07/23/there-is-a-significant-difference-occasionally-with-overlap-between-a-passion-to-make-money-and-a-passion-to-perform-an-activity-which-makes-money/ Charles Tadros, M.D. January 22, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

WITHIN OUR OWN FAMILIES, WE HAVE TEENAGERS WHO WILL PUMP IRON FOR HOURS PER WEEK, DO INSANE PHYSICAL FEATS, REPEATEDLY, FOR TIK TOK, BUT WILL NOT DO ANY OF THESE SIMPLE PHYSICAL ACTS FOR AN HOUR OR TWO A WEEK: PICK UP THEIR ROOM, PUSH A LAWN MOWER, RAKE LEAVES, DO THE DISHES, TAKE OUT THE TRASH (without having to be asked, or having a knock down, dragged out fight).

Charles Tadros, M.D. January 2, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

SOMETIMES WE DO REALLY TERRIBLE QUALITY WORK. CONSCIOUSNESS PEOPLE ARE THE FIRST ONES TO REALIZE THE POOR QUALITY OF THEIR OWN WORK, AS WELL AS THEIR DISINTEREST AND LACK OF MOTIVATION WITH RESPECT TO THIS WORK. THEY DODGE HAVING TO HEAR THEIR OWN INTERNAL, AS WELL AS OTHERS’, CRITICISMS. IT IS OK TO ADMIT ONE’S DEFICIENCIES, LEARN MORE AND DO BETTER…OR MOVE ON TO TASKS AND WORK WHERE WE CAN EXCEL AND THAT GIVE US A TRUE SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT, JOY, AND PRIDE.

Charles Tadros, M.D. January 2, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

ISSUES WHICH DISTRACT FROM THE FACT THAT OUR ADDICTED, ANXIOUS, OBSESSED, ADHD’D, TRAUMATIZED, OR DEPRESSED BRAINS (which we need to trust) ARE AT THE ROOT OF OUR MOST SEVERE PROBLEMS: PERSONALITY DIFFICULTIES, FAMILY STRIFE, SOCIAL TENSIONS, WORK RELATED CONFLICTS, FINANCIAL TROUBLES, AND LEGAL ISSUES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. December 30, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

FOR PEOPLE WITH SEVERE ADDICTIONS, THE ADDICTIONS, AND THEIR ASSOCIATED BEHAVIORS, FEEL LIKE BREATHING: AUTOMATIC, CYCLIC, THOUGHTLESS, NATURAL, AND NEEDED FOR LIFE. THIS IS WHY, WHEN AN ADDICT PROMISES THEMSELVES, AND OTHERS, THAT THEY CAN QUIT (and that they will quit, when they are, “good and ready”), IT IS AS IF THEY HAVE PROMISED TO HOLD THEIR BREATH. THEY MAY BE ABLE TO DO IT FOR A WHILE, BUT, EVENTUALLY, EVERY SEVERE ADDICT WILL RELAPSE. THEY HAVE TO BREATHE.

Severe addiction, heck, probably most addictions, require that sufferers ask for, receive, use, and follow through with professional help in order to decrease and cease the repetitive behavior(s). Many addictions often lead to financial, familial, work/career, health, and even legal problems. Addictions are medical illnesses (not just legal issues), with far reaching personal and socialContinue reading “FOR PEOPLE WITH SEVERE ADDICTIONS, THE ADDICTIONS, AND THEIR ASSOCIATED BEHAVIORS, FEEL LIKE BREATHING: AUTOMATIC, CYCLIC, THOUGHTLESS, NATURAL, AND NEEDED FOR LIFE. THIS IS WHY, WHEN AN ADDICT PROMISES THEMSELVES, AND OTHERS, THAT THEY CAN QUIT (and that they will quit, when they are, “good and ready”), IT IS AS IF THEY HAVE PROMISED TO HOLD THEIR BREATH. THEY MAY BE ABLE TO DO IT FOR A WHILE, BUT, EVENTUALLY, EVERY SEVERE ADDICT WILL RELAPSE. THEY HAVE TO BREATHE.”

THE SMALLEST PROJECTS OR TASKS WILL TAKE AN EVER INCREASING AMOUNT OF TIME, BOTH MENTALLY AND IN REALITY, DUE TO OUR: PERFECTIONISM, ANXIETIES, FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES, AND DUE TO OUR DISTRACTIBLITIES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. November 20, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

IF WE HAVE REPEATEDLY GRINDING FULL DAYS’ WORTH OF WORK AND RESPONSIBILITIES, IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO GET DONE WITH WORK JUST IN TIME TO EAT AND GO TO BED. NO MATTER HOW MUCH LOVE, GRIT, RESILIENCE, AND SUPPORT WE HAVE, SOONER OR LATER, OUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH WILL SCREAM OUT WITH EXHAUSTION, PAIN, IRRITABILITY, DISEASE, AND BURNOUT.

Charles Tadros M.D. September 29, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri

ONCE THE PHONES GO ON, OR YOU RESPOND TO AN EMAIL, OR YOUR WORK UNLOCKS THE DOORS, OR EVEN IF PEOPLE HAVE A HINT THAT YOU ARE AWAKE, IT IS AS IF A STARTING GUN FOR THE DAY HAS GONE OFF AND YOU ARE OBLIGATED TO START RUNNING.

Charles Tadros, M.D. September 27, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri