right now, all at once, without help, with help, without more knowledge and tools, without struggles, without mistakes, getting it right the first time ( or the 20th, or the 100th time), that you’ll have motivation and energy to start, persist, and complete what you want to do, or what is needed of you, thatContinue reading ““You can do it.” Does NOT always mean:”
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Is the purpose of work to retire as soon as possible?
Maybe it’s achieving the ability to retire without actually retiring. Charles Tadros, M.D. January 7, 2024 Saint Louis, Missouri
A friend asks, and I respond, about my perception regarding self determination, having agency, in light of this new book by Sapolsky, Ph.D. … “Determined: Life without free will”.
You accept that you have no agency? Sigh…I have limited agency…I don’t know exactly in what spheres/domains…so I still make plans and goals and make educated/reasonable/calculated efforts… because I never know what will work or what won’t, but I set myself up for success without being too hard on myself if I don’t achieve whatContinue reading “A friend asks, and I respond, about my perception regarding self determination, having agency, in light of this new book by Sapolsky, Ph.D. … “Determined: Life without free will”.”
What work wants from you and what you want from work are often not even close, and sometimes they’re diametrically opposite.
There should be no secrets, no hidden agendas, no mind reading necessary. Just because you have the skills and the experience, and a workplace has an open position, does not automatically mean that you are a good match. For the long term, do not contort yourself, your needs, and your goals to allow you toContinue reading “What work wants from you and what you want from work are often not even close, and sometimes they’re diametrically opposite.”
A young friend worried that his bosses and team at work may not be happy with him/his work. My fatherly response:
You can’t read minds. None of us can. Also, you probably haven’t figured out how to read behavioral patterns from the people that work with you.Ask.Please understand, any boss who thinks that you’ve already met expectations will just set different or higher standards for you… nobody is going to let you keep making the sameContinue reading “A young friend worried that his bosses and team at work may not be happy with him/his work. My fatherly response:”
Youths…
many young people have a purpose, the energy, and a sense of urgency needed to change the world. Charles Tadros, M.D. May 25, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
My text to a 22 year old family friend about the dislikes of his first full-time job…and my sense of the world as a 58 year-old father, husband, son, brother, physician, and former employee (turned employer).
Thanks for hanging out yesterday.I see a direct line between people who loved me and supported me (and often suffered while doing so) to my being able to sit casually with you to have a nice lunch, decades later. Seriously consider listening to what you think, say, and feel as NOT being abnormal or diseased.Continue reading “My text to a 22 year old family friend about the dislikes of his first full-time job…and my sense of the world as a 58 year-old father, husband, son, brother, physician, and former employee (turned employer).”
The more I think about it, the more I see our personal health is a confluence of our genetics, proteomics, epigenetics, and our microbiome with these external factors: our education (general education and education specific to our own health), socioeconomic status, stress, nutrition, sleep, exercise, beliefs, love, connections, support, and priorities.
We may not have absolute free-will. It may be that certain biological forces sway our thoughts, perceptions, decisions, and actions much more than we realize. Charles Tadros, M.D. February 4, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
WHAT ARE THE CONSEQUENCES OF EXERCISING STICK-TO-ITIVENESS, GRIT, PERSISTENCE, AND PERSEVERANCE, IF THESE REQUIRE IGNORING ONE’S OWN THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, NEEDS, AND PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS/SIGNALS?
Charles Tadros, M.D. May 3, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
MANY PEOPLE FIRMLY BELIEVE THAT THROUGH IMAGINATION, MENTAL IMAGERY, POSITIVE EXPECTATIONS, POSITIVE SELF TALK, FORCE OF WILL, AND PLAIN OLE JUST WANTING SOMETHING BADLY ENOUGH, THE UNIVERSE WILL PROVIDE IT FOR THEM. OF NOTE, SOME, BUT NOT ALL, BELIEVERS TOUT THAT NO ACTUAL WORK TOWARD THESE GOALS IS NEEDED. THE UNIVERSE WILL PROVIDE.
Charles Tadros, M.D September 20, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri