Even as adults, many of us still look for affirmation that we’re OK, that we’re acceptable…that we have made right and good choices. Charles Tadros April 12, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
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Shame and embarrassment, as well as the fear of these thoughts and feelings, persist in part because we’re in the same life situations, around the same friends, same family, same work, the same ques and triggers. These people and the places that make up our environments may represent love and support, but often these people and places lock us into our same patterns, making it difficult for us to accept the unpleasant aspects of ourselves, our thoughts, our feelings, and our situations. Intentionally, or unintentionally, these people and places make it difficult for us to accept reality while still asking ourselves to change by seeing things differently, thinking differently, and behaving differently.
Charles Tadros, M.D. January 12, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
IT IS IMPORTANT TO REGULARLY REVIEW OUR OWN, HISTORICALLY IMPORTANT, LIFE DECISIONS AND THEIR RESULTS. THEN, WE CAN DECIDE TO MAKING CHANGES, OR WE CAN RECOMMIT TO ACCEPTING OUR DECISIONS AND HOW THESE DECISIONS HAVE LED US TO WHERE WE ARE TODAY.
It is quite unsettling to review entrenched assumptions, decades-old decisions, accepted results, reasonable consequences and still want to make changes which probably will change the course of our lives. Even if we are open to such introspection, others who may become affected by our choices, may not understand, and may not be accepting. The mostContinue reading “IT IS IMPORTANT TO REGULARLY REVIEW OUR OWN, HISTORICALLY IMPORTANT, LIFE DECISIONS AND THEIR RESULTS. THEN, WE CAN DECIDE TO MAKING CHANGES, OR WE CAN RECOMMIT TO ACCEPTING OUR DECISIONS AND HOW THESE DECISIONS HAVE LED US TO WHERE WE ARE TODAY.”
ONCE WE ARE CONVINCED THAT IMPORTANT CHANGES NEED TO BE MADE IN OUR LIVES (OR WE ACTUALLY MAKE THESE CHANGES), OUR WORK IS NOT DONE. SINCE NONE OF US LIVE IN A VACUUM, WHAT MAY BE LEFT TO DO IS TO CONVINCE OTHERS TO: ALLOW THESE CHANGES, ACCEPT THESE CHANGES, SUPPORT US IN THESE CHANGES, OR AT LEAST NOT BLOCK OR CHALLENGE THESE CHANGES. OFTEN, OTHERS ARE NOT ON BOARD WITH OUR CHANGES, SO WE HAVE TO DECIDE IF WE ARE GOING TO SPEND TIME AND ENERGY CONVINCING THESE PEOPLE, OR IGNORING THESE PEOPLE.
What we often forget is that our changes force others to think about, or even expend energy on: understanding what is happening, supporting us, or even possibly needing to make their own changes. Charles Tadros, M.D. April 10, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
ON DEATH AND DYING
Sitting with, living with, or caring for someone for the last few weeks or months of life are the most revealing to what it really takes to provide good care and comfort for the terminally ill and the dying. Dropping in for a few minutes or FaceTiming the terminally ill or dying does not giveContinue reading “ON DEATH AND DYING”
TOO OFTEN, THE PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOU, LOVE YOU AND CARE ABOUT YOU, CANNOT STAND, AND WILL NOT ACCEPT, TO HEAR YOUR TRUTH, EVEN WHEN YOU TRY TO GARNER HONEST SUPPORT BY SHARING YOUR DISTRESSING AND UNPLEASANT TRUTHS/STORIES WITH THESE CARING PEOPLE.
Charles Tadros, M.D. October 19, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF BEING ON THE RECEIVING END OF INTENTIONAL OR UNINTENTIONAL PAIN (physical, emotional, spiritual/existential, relationship, financial) IS THAT IT IS TRANSFORMATIONAL. OUR PAIN FORCES US TO THINK DIFFERENTLY, TO EMPATHIZE MORE READILY, AND TO PUSH US TOWARD EFFECTING AND ACCEPTING CHANGE.
Charles Tadros, M.D. September 19, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
SOMETIMES,WITH OUR PARENTS OR OUR ELDERS, IF WE CANNOT RECEIVE APPROVAL, THEN LESS CONDEMNATION AND LESS JUDGMENT WOULD DO JUST FINE.
Charles Tadros, M.D. August 21, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri
FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGETTING
Forgiveness is a conscious, purposeful, active, energy-consuming act. Forgiveness does not mean that you approve, support or forget. Forgiveness is an acceptance of a reality. Forgiveness is freeing…freeing for everyone involved. You do NOT have to forgive. It is your choice. Charles Tadros, M.D. March 31, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri