Charles Tadros, M.D.
April 21, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
My thoughts to my daughters about hiring and promoting people..
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5adVNMu2ow/?igsh=YnFua3VzZmNzZDZ4
The clip is a bit too simple, but one of my biggest mistakes is feeling sorry for the people I hire to do unpleasant tasks. However, this speaker is correct.
Many people thrive in jobs or performing certain tasks that I was never good at accomplishing. I unconsciously projected my dislikes onto them…” No smart person would want to do that job (for very long).” I have been very wrong. All people want and need to feel a sense of accomplishment, which includes many people who thrive at tasks that were never my forte.
People want jobs where they get a sense of accomplishment, a sense of community, and are compensated (a combination of title, pay, flexibility in their work schedule and flexibility how they are able to do their work [ie choice], as well as their responsibilities).
Look to see if a person is effective (gets the job done, AND gets the job done right, AND gets the job done on time), THEN look to see if they can be efficient ( gets the job done in the least/ reasonable amount of time, using the least amount/ reasonable amount of energy and resources).
Pay extra for the people who are able to accomplish all the items above, AND can document their steps and insights/tricks AND can coach/teach other staff (or, for select tasks, can teach your clients!!).
Paraphrasing Steve Jobs… hire/promote those who don’t want the job, but feel that they need to do/take the job because nobody else will do it as well as they can/ as well as that job needs to be done.
Pay extra for the people who are able to accomplish all the items above, AND can document their steps and insights/tricks AND can coach/teach other staff (or, for select tasks, can teach your clients!!).
Paraphrasing Steve Jobs… hire/promote those who don’t want the job, but feel that they need to do/take the job because nobody else will do it as well as they can/ as well as that job needs to be done.
XoXoXo,
Dad
Charles Tadros, M.D.
April 7, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
Asymmetric risk-reward potential.
Many situations in life have an asymmetric outcome (potential outcome) that can pay you (reward you) an inordinate amount.
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/legal-team-voided-musks-tesla-230039595.html
Charles Tadros, M.D.
March 2, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
Be curious and care. The rest can be learned.
https://youtube.com/shorts/pNLIUNRPTiY?si=tJfe-lru4YStIDsi
Charles Tadros, M.D.
February 23, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
“You can do it.” Does NOT always mean:
right now,
all at once,
without help,
with help,
without more knowledge and tools,
without struggles,
without mistakes,
getting it right the first time ( or the 20th, or the 100th time),
that you’ll have motivation and energy to start, persist, and complete what you want to do, or what is needed of you,
that you’ll have perfection because you desire the outcome so much, and that you have mentally practiced all the steps,
that people will notice your struggles or your results,
that you will be satisfied with the outcome,
that you will achieve a sense of fulfillment and reward,
that you, “deserve” anything due to your efforts, or due to your mental or physical suffering.
Regardless, it is worthwhile to dedicate a significant portion of your life, to prioritize your wants and needs, then focus, for the lengths of times necessary, to achieve your most important goals.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
February 19th, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
My texting with a 23-year-old friend about some of his frustrations at work…
The friend: I make so many repeated “attention to detail” mistakes, and I’ve had this problem my entire life.
It’s a huge source of anxiety, stress, and insecurity for me because people always point it out and blast me for it.
I always get ridiculed and belittled about this.
My response: Once you understand and, in large amounts, accept yourself, you will be much happier no matter what other people think, say, or do.
The friend: True, but it has an impact on my work life, makes friends angry at me etc. It creates so much headache for me.
My response: Then you’re not in the right line of work for how your brain has been created.
I’m not telling you that you can’t change your brain in a variety of ways, but in the end, there is the deep-rooted YOU in you, that you have to listen to.
My friend: Right. I’ll have to figure out a way around this.
My response: LISTEN to your internal conversation… the wisdom as well as the negative shit, especially the negative self-talk… they both have to be addressed.
There is a reason why you are distracted and have internal conversations.
You don’t have to believe everything that you think or feel, but they need to be addressed so that you can have some sort of détente with your inner self.
Charles Tadros,M.D.
February 5, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
Every day is a miracle. A million small and big events have to go right for any of us to make it through today and on to the next day.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
January 30, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
Is the purpose of work to retire as soon as possible?
Maybe it’s achieving the ability to retire without actually retiring.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
January 7, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
The importance of needing to stay on many years of buprenorphine treatment in those people recovering from opioid use disorder (OUD)/narcotic addiction.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
January 1, 2024
Saint Louis, Missouri
The lack of hope, the lack of being able to imagine a better future for oneself or for one’s family does not invariably lead to depression, despondency, inertia, a lack of will, or a lack of direction …
https://youtube.com/shorts/vkE70PIRSao?si=TJCSFT4hle0c_Zc3
All of us have to believe that our life situations are either acceptable, could get better, or will get better. Hope is not just an empty wish. Hope is life saving… not only for the person searching for it, but for the rest of us who are touched by that person’s life.
Charles Tadros, M.D.
December 15, 2023
Saint Louis, Missouri