WE NEED MUCH MORE FREE TIME THAN WE THINK. MOREOVER, IF WE ARE FINALLY ABLE TO ENJOY THIS FREE TIME, OFTEN, WE REALIZE HOW CONTENT WE ARE NOT WORKING AS MUCH AS WE HAD BEEN WORKING.

Charles Tadros, M.D.

June 17, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

SOME OF THE MORE COMFORTING AND ENCOURAGING PHRASES…

You are not alone.

Let’s do this together.

You don’t have to live this way, if you don’t want to.

Follow me.

I / we have seen this before.

This is very common.

We have a treatment for this.

The test is normal.

Just as you / we had hoped.

It’s less expensive than you / we had thought.

It turned out better than you / we expected.

I’ve been there before, myself.

This is not going to go all the way away, but it will get better.

It’s not as bad as we once thought / as you thought.

Great job!

It’s Okay / you’re Okay.

You’re a mensch / a good person.

You are forgiven.

God loves you.

You are loved, no matter what.

Peace be with you.

(Please share phrases which are comforting to you.)

Charles Tadros, M.D.

June 15, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

MAKING FUNDAMENTAL CHANGES IN PERCEPTIONS OR BELIEFS REQUIRES…

ENERGY to think

TIME to think

GRIEVING about giving up well-established, trusted dogmas and paradigms

a way to RECONCILE the past, which had worked well enough for you, with the present and the future ( cognitive dissonance)

making public and embarrassing MISTAKES while learning and changing

Charles Tadros, M.D.

June 14, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

WINDOW SHOPPING AND “JUST CHECKING THINGS OUT” ON THE WEB: SOW DISSATISFACTION, REINFORCE COVETING, FEED JEALOUSLY, AND ARE THE DEATH KNELL TO ANY BUDGET.

Charles Tadros, M.D.

June 12, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri