DO NOT LOOK AT THE FEATURES OF THE JOB. LOOK FOR THE PEOPLE WHO WILL BE WORKING ALONGSIDE YOU. THESE WILL BE THE PEOPLE WHO SHARE THE HIGHS AND LOWS OF THE DAY, WILL BECOME YOUR FRIENDS, AND, ONE MAY EVEN BECOME YOUR PARTNER OR SPOUSE.

(Thank you Dr. Val Willman, M.D.)

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 6, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

A TRUE TEST OF PARENTHOOD IS IN SITTING AND LISTENING QUIETLY, WITHOUT COMMENT OR JUDGEMENT, AS YOUR CHILD DESCRIBES HER SUFFERING OR AS YOUR SON DOES SOMETHING THAT YOU TOTALLY DISAGREE WITH, BUT NEITHER OF THEM HAVE ASKED FOR YOUR HELP OR FOR YOUR ADVICE.

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 5, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

A DEPRESSED AND ANXIOUS MIND FOOLS US…

When estimating the size of a task

When estimating the time needed to complete a task

When estimating the size of our failures

When estimating the consequences of our failures

When looking at our weaknesses, deficiencies and faults

When thinking about who loves us and cares about us

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 5, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

SMALL VS. LARGE CHANGE

SOMETIMES IT IS IMPORTANT TO MAKE SMALL, INCREMENTAL CHANGES (saving, investing) IN ORDER TO NUDGE YOURSELF TOWARD LARGER GOALS (retirement).

OTHER TIMES, IT IS BETTER TO MAKE MORE DRAMATIC CHANGES (stop abusing substances and stop surrounding yourself with others who continue to use) IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE LARGER GOALS (improved relationships, mental health and physical health).

For both techniques, you may need significant help and support. You do not have to plan or execute these plans by yourself.

Charles Tadros M.D.

May 4, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

MAYBE, WHEN IT IS PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY SAFE, WE SHOULD SLOW DOWN TO LOOK AND SEE WHY OUR FIRST INSTINCT WAS TO LOOK AWAY.

Others’ suffering and loneliness

Our unhappiness

Our anger

Our shame and embarrassments

Our relationships

Our lives in disarray

Our wanton consumerism

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 4, 2021

SMALL OBSESSIONS WILLEXPAND TO SWALLOW UP YOUR ENERGY AND YOUR LIFE JUST AS IF YOU WERE TO GO BACK TO PAINT OVER THE SAME AREA, AGAIN AND AGAIN, BEFORE YOU COULD MOVE ON TO THE UNPAINTED SECTION.

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 3, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri

TWO IMPORTANT BRAIN BENEFITS FROM SLEEP

The pruning of weak dendritic connections between neurons. This pruning consolidates memories and makes more permanent the memories from that day’s practice and training.

The removal of cellular metabolic waste products formed during our brain’s waking hours.

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 3, 2021

BETTER THAN PILL THERAPY FOR ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION ARE ACTIONS AND PROGRESS.

Body (exercise)

Mind (acceptance, forgiveness)

Spirit (meditation, prayer)

Goals (refocus, renew, recommit)

Tasks (make progress, complete)

Charles Tadros, M.D.

May 2, 2021

Saint Louis, Missouri