The friend: I make so many repeated “attention to detail” mistakes, and I’ve had this problem my entire life. It’s a huge source of anxiety, stress, and insecurity for me because people always point it out and blast me for it. I always get ridiculed and belittled about this. My response: Once you understand and,Continue reading “My texting with a 23-year-old friend about some of his frustrations at work…”
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A young friend worried that his bosses and team at work may not be happy with him/his work. My fatherly response:
You can’t read minds. None of us can. Also, you probably haven’t figured out how to read behavioral patterns from the people that work with you.Ask.Please understand, any boss who thinks that you’ve already met expectations will just set different or higher standards for you… nobody is going to let you keep making the sameContinue reading “A young friend worried that his bosses and team at work may not be happy with him/his work. My fatherly response:”
DO SOMETHING POSITIVE, WHICH IS ALSO, DIFFICULT, UNUSUAL, DIFFERENT, RARE, OR SPECIAL. ANOTHER VERSION OF THIS IS TO DO SOMETHING ROUTINE, BUT MUCH FASTER OR COMPLETE IT MUCH EARLIER THAN EXPECTED. THESE ACTIONS TEND TO GIVE US AN EDGE WITH RESPECT TO FOCUS, ENERGY, INTEREST, ACCOLADES, REWARDS, AND SELF ESTEEM.
Most of us want to be known as someone special, and remembered for positive statements, traits, and accomplishments. Charles Tadros, M.D. June 16, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri
IF YOU PROUDLY WANT TO COMPLETE SOMETHING AHEAD OF SCHEDULE, GO AHEAD AND COMPLETE IT AND THEN INFORM OTHERS THAT YOU HAD CHOSEN TO COMPLETE IT EARLY. IF YOU INFORM OTHERS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO SOMETHING AHEAD OF SCHEDULE, AND THEN DO NOT, YOU HAVE JUST RAISED THE BAR ON YOURSELF AND THEN, PUBLICLY, NOT MET YOUR OWN EXPECTATIONS.
(Yes, some people do announce goals publicly in order to motivate themselves.) Charles Tadros, M.D. July 14, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri