Tag Archives: perfectionism

SOMETIMES IT ONLY TAKES A FEW MINUETS OF REFLECTION IN ORDER TO SEE THE “STUCKEDNESS” IN THINKING, BEHAVIORS, AND ROUTINES. FOR INSTANCE, I DO NOT MIND COLLECTING MY FAMILY’S LAUNDRY, WALKING IT DOWNSTAIRS, SEPARATING OUT THE DIFFERENT COLORS AND FABRICS, RUNNING THE LOADS, MOVING THEM TO THE DRYER, PULLING OUT THE LOADS, FOLDING THEM AND TAKING THE CLEAN AND FOLDED ITEMS BACK UPSTAIRS. WHAT I DESPISE, AND I AM NOT PROFICIENT AT, IS THAT I DO NOT DO A GOOD JOB PUTTING AWAY ANYONE ELSE’S CLOTHES. BECAUSE OF MY DEFICIENCY IN THIS FINAL STEP, I WILL NOT EVEN START THE FIRST STEP OF THE PROCESS. NOW, THAT’S NUTTY.

Charles Tadros M.D. June 20, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

SO MANY PEOPLE WITH PROCRASTINATION HAVE A SIGNIFICANT STREAK OF PERFECTIONISM (not for most of the things in their lives, but just for a few things). THE ABILITY TO RECOGNIZE THIS AND TO ASK FOR, AND TO ACCEPT HELP IS THE FIRST STEP TO IMPROVING THEIR SITUATIONS. THE NEXT STEP IS TO FORGIVE THEMSELVES FOR THEIR IMPERFECTIONS, WHILE STILL BEING ABLE TO START AND WORK ON A PROJECTS WITHOUT ALL THE TOOLS, KNOWLEDGE, GAME PLANS, OR HELP, BEING IN PLACE, FROM THE START.

This is how we learn, and iterate (repeat efforts after small changes are made due to lessons learned). Making educated mistakes, learning, and repeating one’s efforts, in better directions with better information, is key to getting started, and eventually, reaching one’s goals. Charles Tadros, M.D. June 14, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

THE SMALLEST PROJECTS OR TASKS WILL TAKE AN EVER INCREASING AMOUNT OF TIME, BOTH MENTALLY AND IN REALITY, DUE TO OUR: PERFECTIONISM, ANXIETIES, FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES, AND DUE TO OUR DISTRACTIBLITIES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. November 20, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri