MANY TIMES WHEN ADULTS HAVE HAD DIFFICULT CHILDHOODS (trauma, basic needs not met, familial instability, abandonment, abuse, fear, confusion, personal illness or family members’ illnesses) THE STABLE AND SECURE FOUNDATIONS WHICH SHOULD HAVE DEVELOPED, NEVER FORMED. THESE HEALTHY FOUNDATIONS ARE IMPERATIVE IN ALLOWING YOUNGSTERS TO EVENTUALLY LEAVE THE NEST, EXPLORE, QUESTION, EXPERIMENT, FAIL, LEARN, AND STILL BE ABLE TO COME BACK TO LOVE, KINDNESS, APPROPRIATE CONSEQUENCES, REASONABLE BOUNDARIES, AND ACCEPTANCE. THESE ACTIONS AND RESPONSES ARE NEEDED IN ORDER TO HELP CHILDREN, WHO ARE NOW ADULTS, TO FORM A HEALTHY SENSE OF SELF AND TO BE ABLE TO HEALTHFULLY SELF REGULATE.

Charles Tadros, M.D. March 6, 2022 Saint Louis, Missouri

SOMETIMES THE EARTH UNDER YOU IS MOVING, AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS SWIRLING AND CHANGING, BUT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING. DO YOU CHOOSE TO STAY THE SAME? DO YOU ADJUST BY MOVING IN WAYS AND DIRECTIONS THAT MAY MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR YOU, BUT TRULY ARE NOT YOU?

Your friends, who work at the same job with you, and support you emotionally, move to other jobs. Then, your supervisors, with whom you get along, get promoted and move on. The new supervisors and the company start wanting you to change how you perform your job, and change how your performance is measured. DoContinue reading “SOMETIMES THE EARTH UNDER YOU IS MOVING, AND EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS SWIRLING AND CHANGING, BUT YOU ARE NOT CHANGING. DO YOU CHOOSE TO STAY THE SAME? DO YOU ADJUST BY MOVING IN WAYS AND DIRECTIONS THAT MAY MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR YOU, BUT TRULY ARE NOT YOU?”

THE ABILITY TO TEMPORARILY STEP OUTSIDE OURSELVES AND ASK, “WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY HEAD AND HOW DID IT GET THERE?” WILL HELP YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON WITH US, HERE AND NOW, AS WELL AS IN OUR FUTURES.

Charles Tadros, M.D. July 17, 2021 Saint Louis, Missouri