by the way your bosses, just like your high school coaches, push you hard and don’t want to hear excuses. They believe that you can do good work.What your new bosses will notice are: 1) that you show up on time or, better yet, early. 2) that you ask insightful questions, BUT DO NOT ASKContinue reading “The tail end of my discussion with a young friend regarding his natural frustration, 4 weeks into his first real job…”
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Here’s a mental trick regarding a source for your own motivation…
If someone is telling you to do, or not to do something, neither of which were in your plans, but you agree with their goal(s) for you, find your own, real reasons, to do as they wished (while not using any of their thinking or reasoning). Don’t automatically ignore the message just because you don’tContinue reading “Here’s a mental trick regarding a source for your own motivation…”
To maximize your value, and your income…
see and think broadly like a generalist; get paid to know and to do as a specialist. Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
Love for family is weird…
you can be frustrated and angry about your own family. In fact, you can bad-mouth your family, but nobody else can agree with you or stay the same thing about your family without your shutting them down. Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
The vast majority of us feel better about ourselves if we are able to say, “yes” or, “yes, and…” to ourselves, or to others, instead of, ” no”.
Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
It’s so hard, “to be present” when…
you can see everything that should have been done, everything that still needs to be done, and it’s your responsibility to notice, plan, arrange, assign, follow-up, apologize-for, and complete these, (as well as clean up after yourself and after everyone else). You can’t delegate anything, or even ask for help, because your brain is suchContinue reading “It’s so hard, “to be present” when…”
Self directed is not the same as self organized.
Charles Tadros, M.D. January 29, 2023 Saint Louis, Missouri
My email this morning to a friend who wants to feel better without having to drink so much, while not wanting to give up alcohol.
Good morning J. This doesn’t work for everyone, but this maybe what you’re looking for: The Sinclair Method (please watch YouTube first, then go to the website) https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts https://cthreefoundation.org/ And from the New York Times: “Cold Turkey Isn’t the Only Route” https://nyti.ms/1cmKofM A related book, by the author of the New York Times piece: https://gabrielleglaser.com/books/her-best-kept-secretContinue reading “My email this morning to a friend who wants to feel better without having to drink so much, while not wanting to give up alcohol.”
It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.
You can read all the self-help books and watch all the self-help videos, and finally be convinced and finally have a strategy for your helping yourself make a needed change. Unfortunately, your friends, coworkers, relatives, and loved ones have not been on the same journey with you. Often, you will need their encouragement, support, andContinue reading “It is very hard for you to notice the need for change, initiate that change, or even sustain that change if everything and everybody around you is signaling that: they don’t care if you try to change, or that they don’t notice the need/your need for change or that they won’t participate in supporting your change.”
The unwritten rules (yes, archaic, and abusive) of showing that we’re serious about our work, wanting to keep our jobs, and serious about supporting our employer…
taking responsibility, even if it’s not our fault going, “above and beyond”, without asking for renumeration or recognition taking on coworkers’ responsibilities taking on more work than is assigned anticipating coworkers’ and supervisors’ needs not complaining not criticizing not job hunting not asking for raises, new titles, elevated positions, or job/career advancements assuming that theContinue reading “The unwritten rules (yes, archaic, and abusive) of showing that we’re serious about our work, wanting to keep our jobs, and serious about supporting our employer…”